Someone asked me earlier today “How do you have a blog and maintain it when you have social anxiety?”
While I don’t normally mind answering questions, even if there one’s I’ve answered a million times before, this one always seems to get to me. Not because it’s rude or there’s anything wrong with it…but being asked about my social anxiety always seems to trigger it, even if it’s from behind a computer screen.
The answer is actually more simple than most people think. I actually created the blog because I have social anxiety. A lot of times, people with social anxiety don’t feel comfortable with face-to-face interactions, but being online [whether it be through a blog, in a chatroom, or in a virtual world] doesn’t trigger any anxiety because you are only talking to a machine, more or less.
*Side note: I’m not speaking here on how social anxiety is for everyone, this is just how it is for me. I using a blog post to answer this question since it seems to be one that I get asked a lot all over our social media*
Talking to someone online, or even through a text message is a little easier because even though they might be judging me, I don’t actually know it unless they say so. And since I very rarely have someone actually say something super judgmental, I don’t think about it.
For example, the COVID-19 pandemic having social distance requirements didn’t really bother or upset me, because having to stay away from people is something that I prefer. So having to tell people that “We’re in the middle of a pandemic, please keep your 6 feet distance” was actually satisfying to me.
If it’s easier, I tell a lot of people to think of the computer or phone screen like a filter in a fish tank or a buffer. If someone says something I don’t like, then it’s super easy to just block them and I never have to see or talk to them again. It’s a little harder to actually never see some people again when you’re talking to them in real life.
Hopefully that clears it up a little for anyone else who was wondering how I manage this blog and other social media while still having social anxiety.
If there’s ever anything else that y’all want to know, don’t hesitate to ask. I love answering questions from you guys!